
The reality TV show Jon and Kate plus 8 may be hitting its highest ratings yet. However, the success of the show is being countered by the crumbling of a marriage. Not a very good trade if you ask me.
Now, I fully admit that I am not a rabid J&K fan. Yes, I’ve seen my fair share of episodes but I haven’t seen every single one. In fact, I stopped watching regularly a year or two ago. I was getting irritated with Kate’s increasing bitchiness towards Jon. Sure, he sometimes deserved it. Even so, it was hard to see that poor man go through the equivalent of a verbal neutering every time Kate spoke to him.
The clash of parenting styles was inevitable. From Jon’s “laid back, permissive, it’s all good” way of parenting to Kate’s “super structured, disciplined” order of things – it was clear these two would have to find a large middle ground in order to raise their children in a safe and nurturing environment.
Last week’s series premiere was a hot commodity for the ratings. Millions tuned in to see the two these two reality tv starts discuss their marriage woes. Jon and Kate didn’t even appear on camera together until the very end, and their few minutes together were painful, forced, and agonizing.
As many fans and critics bicker back and forth about who is the blame for the failed marriage – Jon, Kate, the stress of multiples, or even the stress from being a reality TV family – I think they are missing the bigger point. This family is suffering. They are at crisis. It really doesn’t matter who is to blame. All tht really matters is where do they go from here. Can the marriage be saved? Can the family be saved?
I guess only time will tell the fate of Jon and Kate and their eight children. There is always time to make a better decision, and I do believe Jon and Kate can come together and save their family. I’m just not sure that Jon wants to. At the end of the interview during the season premiere, the show’s producer asked them “where they are now” in regards to their marriage.
Kate’s answer: I’m here. I’ve been here, and I’m still here.
Jon’s answer: I’m here for my kids.
Maybe Kate needs to learn how to treat Jon with more respect. Maybe Jon needs to realize that he made a commitment to not only his wife but also his children, and he doesn’t get to simply choose to abandon that commitment because the mood strikes. There are a lot of maybe’s in there. But one thing is for certain – it’s time to turn off the cameras and focus on saving their family. Right now, nothing else matters. Not the new fancy house, the private organic chef, or the new cars. The only thing that matters is saving their family.